So, I ask my reader's what is wrong with these statements - or what do they have in common...
Get ready for a pop-quiz!!!
(1) The narcissist's False Self; (2) his dissociation; (3) his sense of entitlement; and (4) his past successes at evading justice.
(1) To insure against the possibility of being accused of lying if and when he is exposed as a fraud and (2) to extract narcissistic supply from his audience.
Anybody have a clue yet? Well, if not, here are some more...
The classic narcissist maintains an island of stability in his life while the other dimensions of his existence wallow in chaos and unpredictability.
The borderline narcissist reacts to instability in one area of his life by introducing chaos into all the others.
Still, if the narcissist becomes self-aware and hits rock bottom, his behaviours can be modified to render him more socially adept and skilled.
The re-enactment of past traumas sustains the narcissist's grandiosity and reinforce reward-penalty cycles and his self-image as a "bad object".
See the commonality yet? If not, here are three more...
Gradually, though, he converts some of them into sources of attention and adulation (at this phase, incest is a distinct danger)
As they grow up and become more discerning, judgmental, and critical, the narcissist regains his erstwhile hostility towards his offspring.
But, lacking empathy the narcissist doesn't care: he treats others as objects and instruments of gratification (mere sources of narcissistic supply).
The narcissist's grandiosity is comprised of: omnipotence, omniscience, omnipresence (fame and celebrity), and omnivorousness.
Did you notice it?
I was not aware that the main qualification of being a narcissist was to also have a penis - hence all the "he", "him", "his", "himself" etc... in the statements above.
In all fairness, the author does occasionally say "them" and "themselves" instead of HE and HIM - but not terribly often. Also, there is a section on male and female narcissists and their differences - but for the most part - well - you just saw it.
Here is a link where you can rate this book - I know that I will not bother reading it. It wreaks of gynocentrism and misandry.
Seriously - take a look at the reviews - mostly women gave it 5 stars - some of them use pictures of cats as their avatars.
Stay tuned - I have some new posts coming up, including one called, "Fifty Shades of Complete Bullshit"...
Anybody who tells you you're doing wrong needs help.
Of course, she is probably too busy writing love letters to Charles Manson or some other psychopath to bother with a "self-purported nice guy" like you who wants consensual sex and not murder, drugs, rape, cannabalism or necrophilia...